THE PROCESS OF DIVORCE IN MARTIN BUBER'S PERSPECTIVE
Abstract
Divorce in Indonesia is increasing from time to time. This is an indisputable social fact. This research will analyze how the divorce process occurs and how a husband or wife sees their partner from Martin Buber's perspective through a philosophical approach. Divorce is a process leading to separation. Starting from a crisis and prolonged domestic conflict, in the end, it brings a new "perspective" towards their partner. In Buber's perspective, the husband and wife relationship could be said to be in the I-Thou pattern before the conflict. Husbands or wives see their partner as a self-image of their existence as a person, but the family crisis leads them to the I-It pattern, which sees partners as things. The crisis impacts changing the pattern of relations from integrative relationships to segregative and separate ones. The separation between husband and wife begins with self-construction by the "strong" party to their partner, who is in an inferior position. This negative self-construction creeps into a social construction, which impacts the stigmatization of the inferior as the party to blame—this stigma against a partner as "It" facilitates the separation process that leads to divorce.
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